New year, new me. Although we usually laugh at it – especially when we finish the old year with our last strength – there is something magical about it that makes us believe that after hanging a new calendar on the wall we can start the next phase of our lives. We asked a few people about this new opening. Are the answers surprising?
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Adam, 26: I'm writing down my prospects for next year
I don't tend to make traditional New Year's resolutions because it motivates me so much. A few years ago I decided to give it a try. I took out a big piece of paper and wrote all my goals and dreams there. In the end, I didn't finish any of them. Some of them I just failed, some failed despite my best efforts, and some I couldn't complete due to reasons beyond my control. So I was left with one big feeling of shame. That's why now I'm trying to prepare New Year's resolutions more pragmatically. It's a bit like a briefing at work. I sit down and write down my prospects for the coming year. personal development, professional development, emotional life, etc. And that's how I organize my decisions, although I prefer to call it an action plan. This plan includes very prosaic but also very intimate activities. Example: I know that I will try to make changes this year working. I plan to start learning tennis and improve my language skills. When it comes to these more intimate decisions, I really want to finally acknowledge that I matter and have a right to my place in this world. That I have the right to set boundaries and be confident. I want to understand that I should be the most important to me. That it's time to put yourself first. I dream of stopping shyness in all situations that require me to have social contacts. And most importantly, I want to finally stop being afraid of everything that is new to me. Will I be able to do it all? Oh, it's going to be hard, but I know I'll try really hard. I am certainly on track now to see these resolutions come to fruition in the future.
Kinga, 33: I need to change
I do not believe in miracles, but in my case I usually manage to implement these written resolutions. Within a minute of making the list, I forgot I had done it at all, but when I pulled the paper out of my wallet at the end of the year, I found that I could tick off most of them as “done”. things.
Let's also agree that these were not so-called ideas out of a hat. My decisions are things that have been in me for a long time, certain desires and plans that require determination, not the conquest of space.
However, I must admit that I am very tired right now, so my resolution for 2024 is first and foremost to relax and take care of myself, which means better and longer sleep, healthy food and more exercise.
I also want less stress, but I know that can be the hardest challenge. However, I realize that the next item on my list – changing jobs – might help us achieve this goal as well.
I don't think I want anything more than a new activity that will give me strength and power to act. I need motivation, satisfaction, desire to act.
In my current job I have to push myself to fulfill my duties, which of course I do, but I feel the price is too high. I don't want to wake up thinking “just get through Friday” or “just get through the day”.
Igor, 31: I always had a passion
It's not like I'm going to make a list of New Year's resolutions to change my life. I make these intentions several times a year, which further increases the frequency of failure. So walking the climbing wall ends up playing guitar more often after watching two movies about rock climbers and playing some tunes.
I've always had a passion. Fortunately, I can handle these more serious decisions – I've been drug and alcohol free for 2.5 years and I'm doing the best I can with what I have in my life.
As for New Year's activities – last year my husband and I came up with the idea of making a New Year's film in which we tell ourselves what we are grateful for in the old year and what we wish for in the new year. . I wish I could tell you what I decided then, but I'm sorry – I can't remember what the hell I said.
Marta, 39: I am mature enough to make this decision
Years later, I have something that could be called a New Year's resolution, although it has nothing to do with the date, but rather that I am finally mature enough to make it.
I decided not to stress, not to get angry about things that didn't matter. For example, nothing will happen if I am late for work, and thanks to this my child will go to kindergarten with a mother who is not in a constant state of tension.
Second, I take care of myself, my needs, not being tired all the time, finding time to meet people sometimes, going to the park and sitting quietly for a while, going to activities that I never had time for. , paint your nails.
This year I want to give myself permission to put myself first, to convince myself that I have value, that my needs matter, and that I can finally be happy…without regrets.
Camila, 35: I just want to move on
I had solutions before, but now I just want to dig myself out of the hole in one step. So, more than saying I'll do this, this, and this, I just want to try to move forward. Although on New Year's I always tell myself less about something and more about what I like, ie more going out, less coke.
Marta, 30: We need symbolism in life
5 years ago, I would have said, based on popular lifestyle and basic dog theory, that these solutions are a waste of money and that you can always start over. But as anthropology and a little less psychology says – we need symbolism in life, rites of passage, new openings.
It's just that these New Year's resolutions are naturally associated with something big. Since it's a new year, we have to think of something spectacular.
What kind of decision is it to stop eating chocolate? I think a good resolution should be specific and fairly small. I believe it's better to go to the gym four times than not at all “because it's pointless”.
There's also something called an entry point, a bit like an auction, like a drawing. If you have PLN 2 thousand for a painting, it is idiotic to participate in an auction that starts at PLN 1,800, because you do not have the resources to do so. It's the same with resolutions.
and what is mine Limit smoking and drinking energy drinks. At the beginning of the month, buy something specific and don't spend it on nonsense at first, because I won't be able to buy something better later.
I also want to have breakfast at home and bread with cheese is better. Jams a day because it helps my head and my emotions.
Justina, 35: I just want a little routine
My resolutions are different this year than they were years ago. Yes, I want to lose weight again, learn a language, get a driver's license, but I prefer: to have a good breakfast every day, to have time for a walk, to have five minutes to read a book, to be alone, in silence. , focused and think about what to do next.
Until now, every year I always had a new calendar, I wrote my goals there, and this year I just want to live a happy and healthy life, with a little routine. And also so that there is no pain and no joy.